What is Bullying?
It is the repeated oppression, pychological or physical, of a less powerful person by a more powerful person or group of persons.
*6,363 cases of bullying were recorded in 2014. This is 21% higher than the 5,236 cases in 2013.
*About 31 incidents of bullying are reported everyday in schools. The Philippine “Anti-Bullying Act of 2013” directs schools to adopt policies aimed at addressing bullying.
*Studies have consistently shown that: Boys are more involved in direct bullying while girls are more involved in indirect bullying.
Forms of Bullying:
- Direct forms – Physical Bullying: hitting, pushing, kicking, punching, slapping, and other forms of physical aggression. Verbal Bullying: name-calling, threatening, teasing in a hurtful way, rude remarks and other forms of verbal aggression.
- Indirect forms – Social or Relational Bullying: Spreading rumors, ignoring, gossiping, leaving people out, harming someone’s reputation.
- Cyber Bullying – A form of aggression that occurs over the internet or through social networking sites. Sending nasty messages and inappropriate emails, sharing someone’s private information without consent, posting inappropriate photos online.
The bully also needs help – Young people who were bullied in the past are twice as likely to become bullies themselves. This leads to a vicious cycle of bully-victim interactions.
Effects of Bullying:
- Lower self-esteem due to failure to stand their ground
- Physical, emotional and psychological harm
- Poorer academic performance
- Mental health problems
How to Deal With Bullies?
- Practice confidence.
- Seek advice and help from your parents, teachers, guidance counselors, and other people you trust.
- Do not take revenge.
- Assertively ask them to stop or tell them how you feel.
- Talk to someone else about it.
- Only spend time with people who respect you.
- Be kind to yourself.
- Do things that make you feel good.
“STAND UP. SPEAK OUT.”
Do discourage others from reiforcing the bullying.
Do provide support to the one being bullied.
Don’t reinforce what the bully is doing – don’t praise the bully or laugh when bullying occurs.
Don’t stay quiet – tell an adult about what you witnessed.
Reference: Philippine Mental Health Association, Inc.